The stage as a toddler is bewildering and infuriating for any parent. Your toddler's behaviour will always be self-centred. They will be reasonable this minute and will be completely irrational the next. As they are learning to manage their emotions, it’s almost impossible to reason with them. Let's face it. They have limited vocabulary. And, that stops them from understanding any logical relationships.
Understand their minds and that will enable you to deal with the terrible two’s.
- You have to identify the personality of your toddler. The personality of your little one could be shy, clingy, easy, difficult or super active. The upbringing plans should be dependent on their personality. Two babies brought up in the same family set up will behave differently if they have different personalities.
- Put yourself in your child’s shoes. Try to understand their erratic behaviour, find the underlying cause and help them. For example, if your little one cries pointing somewhere, think of the possible stuff she/he might want to play with.
- Approval and appreciation is very important. Praise and encourage them when they do the right thing. Celebrate them being good and award appropriate behaviours. This will help them understand what good behaviour is.
- Ignore the problematic behaviours as long as that doesn’t pose a threat to anyone. Try distracting your child and engage in some other activity or a toy. Use humour or fun as a tool for distraction, but, never make fun of a child when they are angry or frustrated.
- Most toddlers go wild when they are hungry or sleepy. Prevent this by planning ahead and establishing routines for sleep and food.
- Keep your cool. Be patient. Your little one is still learning. I know it's hard for your to understand your toddler's language. But, understand that it's actually harder for them to convey anything when they are limited by their vocabulary.
“Raising kids is part joy and part guerrilla warfare” -End Asner. Happy parenting!