In your journey as a mother, you would have had roller coaster rides of emotions and meltdowns. There would have been a point where you felt totally down with guilt and shame. You would have felt like you were a failure. It's absolutely fine and you are not alone. But, it's time you pick up the signals that your body and mind are constantly sending you on the impending meltdown. If these signals are not paid heed to, will have disastrous effect on you, your little one and your family. Here is how you can deal with the meltdowns.
- Go with the flow. Realise that few things are beyond your control and then, you are in control. As a parent you always feel a rush of anxiety when you can't get your little one to eat, clean their teeth, managing their temper tantrums or other unscheduled toddler events. Stop blaming yourself for these things that are beyond your control and go with the flow.
- Wake up early. Rise before your children and tune into your favourite FM station or music while sipping a hot piping cup of coffee. You can ensure that you get your ‘peaceful, uninterrupted’ time that would give you a head start for your day. It gives you ample time to plan your to-do list, organise, be proactive and to do something you love. Rise and shine, you will love the solitude!
- Stop feeling guilty. You allow your little one to watch TV, use TV as your baby sitter, you didn’t play with your little one, you didn’t take them out to play, you yelled at them, you feel like being alone wanting some ‘me time’ and the lost grows. Hold on! It is absolutely normal. Stop feeling guilty as it is the most negative emotion. Consider guilt as a sign that you are trying to be perfect.
- Take a power nap. Take a power nap lasting 20 to 30 minutes. A power nap will restore your energy. It will boost your personal determination, alertness, productivity and above all prevent burnout. A word of caution- longer the nap, groggier you will be. So keep it short.
- The best solution of all "Self- care". You must consider having some "me time". When there are two people sharing an ardent stake in their toddler, the little one should not be a single person’s responsibility. It's time you ask your partner to share some of the responsibilities and take some time for yourselves. You can take up classes on driving, swimming, baking, art or anything that interests you and pursue the same on daily basis. Taking breaks on a regular basis like grocery shopping, movies, visiting friends, hitting the gym, practising yoga, reading etc can help you in directing yourself towards gratitude.
"People say parenting requires a limitless amount of patience, they are wrong. You need a lot more than that." -Unknown. Happy parenting!